“Mayra, you are too nice” is what I have always been told by my family and friends. I took it as a good thing. But being too nice has its downside, too. People can take advantage of your kindness and know that you won’t do anything about it.
I knew I needed to have a change for once.
Earlier on in the school year, I was constantly bullied by my peers. I noticed that they would look at me and laugh about God-knows-what because I, not once did anything for them to talk. I let it slide because I was so afraid that they would overpower me. However, we all let things go up until there comes a moment where you had enough.
I ended up confronting them.
I was so nervous when it happened. As much as I wished to back down, I knew that it was too late. I had to do the extreme and clarify the situation. Although the results weren’t as I had expected- considering that it gave them more reason to talk about me, I was proud.
I always found it difficult to stand up for myself, but the moment I did, it felt great! I knew that I did the right thing and I respected myself more.
After my confrontation, I knew that I was up for any challenge that came along my way. Little did I know, that I would have to deal with a teacher.
Since I am Yearbook Staff Member, I was in charge of taking pictures of every single teacher in the school. It was a hassle, but it was something that had to be done. Everything was fine up until I came across a teacher who was very disrespectful towards me. As soon as I walked in, he started showing off in front of the class by making smart comments. He even downgraded my camera that I got as a present and saying that he got one that costs 10x more than mine. It was very offensive. I was afraid to say anything in front of the class and mostly because he used to be my teacher. But that didn’t stop me from feeling completely embarrassed.
The whole day I felt upset about what he said. It was the thought that a teacher would bring down a student in front of a whole classroom that was hard to grasp.
Then, I knew that I had to stand up for myself and tell him how he made me feel.
I made sure to visit him when he wasn’t teaching a class to make it more private. That’s when I flat out told him how I felt. He immediately apologized for making inane comments and everything was clear.
Sometimes all it takes is for an apology for things to get better. Just one simple word. If you were brave enough to stand up for yourself, and people realize their faults by saying “sorry”, everything would be OK.
If you ever feel as if people are taking advantage of your kindness, know that you are worth more than feeling down and confront whoever it might be. They are no different than any one of us. Stick up for yourself because by you taking a stand, it will make them realize that you know just how much you are worth.
Hi everyone, my name is Mayra! As you can probably tell from my blog posts, I have always enjoyed spreading some positivity- even to this day! My biggest wish has been to inspire others because engaging with people while helping them is extremely rewarding to me. Along with writing motivational posts, I also plan on giving advice. I welcome everyone to come to me for anything because I truly care about YOU!